This too shall pass. The one constant in this universe is that everything changes. Remind yourself of this and you’ll suffer less. You’ll get disheartened less often and less intensely. And โ back to our original purpose โ you’ll deal with conflict better.
Say that phrase to yourself next time you feel upset about something. Use it as a mantra. The circumstances that caused the upset will change โ maybe not all of them, but some parts of your circumstances will change all by themselves fairly quickly. And remind yourself that your feelings will change inevitably, even if you do nothing to change them. You won’t stay upset forever. I know this is obvious to you now, but when you’re upset, you tend to forget this important truth.
Source: A key technique for staying calm during an argument. (article)